Monday, September 16, 2013

Love and Sex


      By Susan Browing Pogany
    

      "Sex is not a three-letter word for love," "Love that is real is a developing emotion, slow and steady....[ it involves ] a willingness to invest time and effort in developing the potential of a relation- ship."

       A young man explains, "I thought that sleeping together would deepen our relationship. But we just didn't know each other well enough. It turned out we were too different. I was sorry, and I felt guilty."

       Twenty-three-year-old Kim recalls, "I was sixteen and a virgin when I started dating Brian. He was great looking, older, sophisticated. I thought about him every minute. I was completely in love. After a few weeks, we were having sex - in fact, we did it every time we had a chance to be together.

       "At first, I was so happy being with him, but then I got scared and upset. I was afraid he would leave me, and I felt kind of guilty. Here I was sleeping with this guy, and I was starting to figure out that he didn't feel about me like I did about him. I was so sure I love him, but I realize now that I didn't really know him. I didn't know then what it means to really know a guy. The truth is that, after a while, the biggest thing between us was sex.

       "One night when he brought me home, he said goodbye in this kind of heavy, serious way. I could just tell he meant it was all over. I was so scared, but couldn't, you know, talk to him about it. Can you believe it? We'd been intimate sexually all those weeks, and I still couldn't really have an intimate conversation with him about us.

      "For months, I felt awful and depressed. I listened to this suicidal music and stared into space for hours. I was completely confused about who I was and what I have done....

       "Then I met Allen. I was so desperate for affection or love or attachment that I started sleeping with him after a couple of weeks. I was exciting for a while, and I told myself I loved him, but I didn't really. I just need to fill loved. It didn't last long, and I ended up feeling even worse about myself.

       "I really wish I hadn't had sex so young. It made me feel bad about myself, and it made me feel like I made stupid decisions. I don't know if I've really gotten over feeling bad about me. I wish I'd waited till I was older." 

       "JJ" comments on the Internet, "If you can't wait, you don't know what love really is."

                               Sex Smart by Susan Browing Pogany


8 Ways to Stay Safe on Campus

 
8 Ways to Stay Safe on Campus ...
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Stay Safe on Campus! It’s time for back to school, and if you’re headed off to college, then you’ll need to know these tips for staying safe while away. Many of them apply to safety no matter where you live, but some are unique to campus life. Here are 8 ways to stay safe on campus — read them, know them, and live by them!

1. Know your way around

If you’re lost, you’re an easy target to on-campus predators. You’ll be confused, distracted, and easy to assault. Keep a campus map in your bag, and don’t wander around alone. If you need help, refer to a map rather than asking a lone stranger. If you do want to ask for help, ask campus police or a group of other women.

2. Know where to blue phones are

Most college campuses have blue-lit emergency phones that will connect you immediately with campus police. Know where they are, and don’t be afraid to use one if you feel unsafe! That’s what they’re there for… but if you don’t know where to find one, they won’t be any good at all.

4. Don’t walk around alone at night

This may sound like a no-brainer, but it’s surprising how many women walk around campus alone at night. You’re really not any safer on campus than you would be in your own neighborhood at home, so why would you engage in riskier behavior away at school? Use the classic buddy system, and don’t walk around alone at night!

 

3. Be aware of your surroundings

Predators are always on the lookout for girls who look down at the ground when they walk and don’t make eye contact, or are distracted with a cell phone or have headphones in. Being aware of your surroundings is one of the best things you can do to stay safe on campus, or anywhere else for that matter! Don’t listen to headphones while you’re walking or jogging, unless you’re in a well-populated public area. Keep your head up, and make eye contact with the people you pass.

5. Make sure someone knows where you are

You don’t have to call and check in with mom and dad every night, but you DO have to make sure that one of your friends knows where you and, who you’re with, and when you’ll be back all the time. Lame? No. Important for your staying safe on campus? Yes, absolutely!

6. Don’t invite anyone back to your dorm!

I don’t care how cute that guy from your Trig class is — he’s a stranger, and you should not be inviting him back to your room! Women thought serial killer Ted Bundy was handsome and charming, which is exactly how he was able to lure them to their deaths. Be careful, and stay safe on campus, by keeping strange boy out of the bedroom!

7. Don’t overload your arms with books

If your arms are laden with books, you’ll be an easy target. I know you need those books and binders, but keep them in a backpack or book bag, slung across your shoulders, rather than being distracted and having your arms and hands full.

8. Report anything suspicious

After 18 years in captivity, during which time she could have been saved by multiple parole officers, do you know what finally saved Jaycee Duggard? A sharp-eyed set of campus police women, both following their instincts that something wasn’t quite right with her. Trust your instincts, and report anything suspicious to campus police. Don’t let them brush you off, either — you could save someone else’s life, and maybe even your own! (allwomenstalk)

9 Ways to Be More Street Smart


9 Ways to Be More Street Smart ...
 
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If the answer to being more book smart was to read more books, then what about how to be more street smart? You only have to read the paper or switch on the morning news to know that your safety should be your top priority at all times. It’s not about being scared or fearful, but having a healthy dose of common sense and habits that will protect you from potential harm. Here’s some pointers on how to be more street smart.

1. Unplug

I love listening to my music as much a fat kid loves cake, but never on the walk home if it is dark or in an area that is quiet or deserted. Not only will you not be able to hear anyone approaching but you are making yourself an easy target. Wearing headphones advertises that you are unaware and off in your own world. The same goes for your early morning or late evening runs ladies; this is top spot on my list of ways to be more street smart for a reason!

2. Say Goodbye

As above, the same goes for talking on your phone. You might say that you do it for your safety but how aware of your surroundings are you whilst telling your BFF about your saucy encounter with the guy from accounts this morning? If anything, have a number on speed dial and have your finger ready so if needs be, you can reach someone at the touch of a button.

3. Act Out

When it comes to your safety forget your pride. If something or someone is giving you the heebie jeebies then do what you need to do to remove yourself from the situation. I once noticed a group of men walking behind me one night and felt uneasy about it, so I legged it to the closest main road. Who cares what they thought? If they were harmless then okay, they may have thought that I was a little odd; but if they were indeed looking to make trouble then I saved myself from being involved in it.

4. Speak up

If you are approached by someone who you think is potentially dangerous and you are in a public place, then speak loudly and be firm. Attackers are cowards at heart, if you show them with your tone, posture and eye contact that you are neither meek nor weak but assertive, strong and confident, they will soon realise that you are anything but an easy target. Even if you are not feeling it inside, fake it until you make it.

5. Hide The Bling

One way to be more street smart is to not advertise that you have money or nice things. Keep your phone, laptop or iPod in your bag if you are unsure about the area you are in, and put your money in your purse as soon as you have withdrawn it from a cash machine instead of standing there counting it. Also, try to get into the practise of wearing your bag across your shoulder; no one will attempt to grab it unless they plan to drag you down the road with it!

6. Know Your Options

I am feeling a bit like an S.A.S agent here, with all these ‘Street Smart’ tips and my next point only highlights that- know your options. Wherever you are be aware of your surroundings. Where is the closest place to go if you got in trouble? Where are the exits? Are there Police in the area? It sounds a bit O.C.D but for the hundreds of times these practices may not be necessary, if the situation were to arise only once they would be imperative.

7. Gut Feeling

When it comes to how to be more street smart, listening to your gut has got to be up there. You often instinctively know if something is not quite right or potentially unsafe, listen to your instincts and act on them. If your gut starts to tell you that you need to leave, run, or move away from a situation or person, then do yourself a favour and follow it.

8. Say It with Your Step

When I think of a street smart female images of a ‘Dangerous Minds’, bandanna wearing ‘Jenny from the block’ type springs to mind. If you want to be the part then you have to play the part. I am not saying sag your pants and put on a pair of hoop earrings larger than the size of your head, but walk like you woke up this morning and downed a bottle of ‘ I’m actually quite lovely but f*** with me and things are going to get ugly’. I mean it- stand tall, shoulders back, eyes ahead and let any potential ‘troublemaker’ know that you will not go quietly.

9. Forward Thinking

To take the stress out of situations and ensure your safety plan ahead. If you are heading home late at night then checkout the best route possible earlier in the day, or arrange to meet someone at your end destination. If you are going anywhere that you haven’t been before get on google Maps and know the route. You’ll have more confidence knowing what you are doing and won’t look like a lost lamb waiting for trouble. (allwomenstalk)

What to Do When Elevator Starts to Fall




         
        If the elevator breaks and falls, you think that you're going to die. However, if you calm down and know how to apply some of the following tips, the situation will be different.

        * First, quickly press any button in the elevator. When emergency power supply unit is active, then the elevator will stop falling further

        * Then grip the handrails when available. This will make you hold your position and not fall or crash into the elevator when out of balance.

        *  Lean your back and head onto the wall of the elevator, forming a vertical line to protect the back and spine.

        * Keep knees bent to create flexibility, help to minimize the shocks that can drastically create severe foot fractures when it crashes.

        Share these tips to everyone to know 

HOW TO BE SAFE ON THE STREET FROM RAPISTS



        A Group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

       1. The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a women with long hair, women with short hair are not common targets.

       2. The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

       3. They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

       4. Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00 a.m and 8:30 a.m

       5. The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store, parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms.

       6. The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

       7. Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3 - 5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15 - 20 years.

       8. If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only take a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it beacause it will be time-consuming.

       9. These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

       Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

       10. Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out here", we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

       11. If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or shower that she would not be afraid to fight back, Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

       12. If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

       13. If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERRY VERRY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it hurts.

       14. After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.

       15. When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible! The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

       16. Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!

       You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

       1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

       2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans. If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you..... chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

        3. If you are ever thrown into the truck of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

        4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, et.c., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, ec.t. DON'T DO THIS!) The predator will be watch you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him  to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

       a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

        5. A few! notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

        A. Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the and in the back seat.

        B. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door . Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

        C. Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.

        IT IS AWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

        6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)

13 Reasons Why Women Say “No” to Anal Sex

13 Reasons Why Women Say "No" to Anal Sex ...
 By Melanie

First of all, I am going to be very open with the readers of my blog. I am not against anal sex. If you do it with the one you love and do it right, it can be fun. However, I have recently read a blog on here that a guy posted called 5 Reasons Why Men Like Anal Sex … I have to give kudos to him, because he listed some great reasons in my book.

However, this is not the first time I have researched the subject. I have noticed a lot of girls out there that say “No” when it comes to anal sex. When I was reading the comments to the blog I previously told you about, I found many reasons as to why they say no to anal sex. Below, I am going to give you 13 reasons that I found in previous blog entries (real women who say “no) on anal sex…

13. It hurts

Do you know how many posts I have seen where women say it hurts? This seems to be the top reason as to why women are saying no to anal sex.

12. Anal sex is a good way to get AIDS

I actually saw that in a blog post. According to research I have done, you cannot get aids from anal sex, unless the person already has aids. However, again, I have found that this is a reason many women give. Maybe it is an excuse to get out of anal sex?

11. It is a homosexual desire

While I do not believe this, again, I have found many women out there that say that it is a homosexual desire.

10. Why there?

Why would any guy want to put his penis up there in that dirty place? Yes, I actually saw that posted on a blog and well, many girls do agree with this poster.

9. The eeky factor

That is just plain out disgusting for many women and there’s not much that can be done about that.

8. It’s pointless

From the anatomical point of view there simply can be no pleasure out of anal sex for women. Seriously. There’s nothing up there that can actually make it feel good.

7. Lack of trust

I do not trust my man enough to have anal sex with him.

6. I am saving anal sex for a very very very very special day.

Somehow, I think that very very very special day is never going to get there for that girl. However, it is a very good reason.

5. It’s too big

The guys penis is just waaaay too big to go up in that little bitty hole.

4. We might bleed

When some girls have anal sex, they bleed out of the area and many women do not want to go through this. Women who are dealing with hemorrhoids say no to anal sex.

3. Droplets? No thanks.

Droplets coming out of the derriere are far from being sexy. Yes, that was from a blog post I read. Some women feel that it is not sexy at all.

2. It might cause health problems

There was one girl in a post that said she had too much anal sex and it stretched out her butt and caused her to have some problems. One of those problems was the fact that she could not control it. Do you think this could actually happen?

1. It’s just not for me

Anal sex is just not something that is enjoyed by some women. Not wanting it and not enjoying it should be enough to say no. Don’t you think? (allwomenstalk.com)

Sexually Transmitted Diseases

8 Tips on How to Decide If It's Time to Break up ...
      

  By Susan Browing Pogany

  One false move and you're infected

  "I always though of myself as a clean person. I shower every day. My girlfriend was clean. In fact, she was beautiful. But she gave me gonorrhea. I couldn't believe it. Now I feel dirty, like I'm infested with bugs or something. "

  "I hadn't known Tim very long, but he was such a gorgeous guy, I let myself go. I thought about using some kind of protection, but what was I supposed to do - stop everything and order him to put on a condom? He probably would have gotten mad. I was on the Pill anyway. So it just seem easier to forget it. A month later, I had genital warts. It's been horrible."

  a young girl explains, "I could swear I never had any sign that I had a disease down there. No irritation, no pus - nothing! Then I started having this awful pain in my stomach. I tried to ignore it but it got so terrible I had to see a doctor. I was really sick. She said I had chlamydia, that I'd probably had it along time without knowing it. It infected me deep inside, and now I may never be able to have kids. I still can't believe this happen to me."

 MORE THAN TWENTY-FIVE DISEASES ARE SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED.

  Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) spread from one person to another during sexual intercourse or close body contact - contact involving the penis, vagina, rectum, or mouth. The Sexual Revolution has brought about an epidemic of STDs.

  STDs spread faster among teenagers than any other group. Any teen - rich, poor, black, white, city or country dweller - can get an STDs. STDs can make you very sick, can kill you, and can make you unable to have children. They can be transmitted to babies during childbirth, causing blindness, retardation, and death. Many teens with STDs have no ideas they are infected and, therefore, do not seek treatment. They continue, unknowingly, to spread these diseases.

  Some STDs can be treated and cured. Some cannot be cured. Some are developing a resistance to antibiotics. Some STDs cause sore in your genital area that give HIV/AIDS an easy entry point into your body.


Every year, three million teenagers get an STD. If you are sexually active, there's a fifty - fifty chance you'll get an STD by age twenty-five.

It is estimated that one out of four sexually active teenage girls has an STD. Women catch these diseases more easily than men due to body differences. During unprotected intercourse with an infected partner, women are twice as likely to catch some STDs, including chlamydia and gonorrhea.

Because STDs are harder to detect in women, many women are unaware they are infected until their reproductive systems are so damaged that they can never have children.

The younger the girl, the more susceptible she is to these infections. This may because the cervix (the opening to the uterus). is immature and because the girl has fewer protective. antibodies.

There no way to know if your partner is free from infection. They may not be truthful with you, may be too embarrassed to tell you, or may have a disease and not know it. In fact, your partner could have two sexually transmitted diseases at the same time and not know it.

The only sure way of protecting your self against STDs is to abstain from vaginal, anal, and oral sex. If condom with spermicides were used during every sexual intercourse by teenagers, they would provide fairly good protection, but it is a fact that many teens do not use condom consistently. The  following are a few of the most common STDs.

Chlamydia

Chlamydia is the number one STD in the US. Each year there are four million new cases - that's 11,000 new cases every day! The chlamydia microorganism can attack the reproductive systems of both men and women. Many victims have no symptoms and don't seek treatment. They continue to infect others.

Every year one out of seven girls and one out of ten boys is infected with chlamydia.

Chlamydia symptoms may include burning, itching, discharge from the vaginal or penis, burning urination, abdominal or lower back pain, fever, and pain and swelling in the  testicles. Seventy- five percent of women and 25 percent of men have no symptoms until this infection has caused serious complications.

Chlamydia symptoms may include burning, itching, discharge from the vagina or penis, burning urination, abdominal or lower back pain, fever, and pain and swelling in the testicles. Seventy-five percent of women and 25 percent of men have no symptoms until this infection has caused serious complications.

Chlamydia damages the reproductive systems of both young men and women and can cause sterility or infertility - the inability to have children in the future. Chlamydia can lead to infections of a girl's cervix and fallopian tubes (the tubes where sperm meet egg), causing, scarring, infertility, sterility.

Chlamydia can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease (PID - discussed below), a serious and painful illness. Victims can end up with ongoing, long-term pelvic pain. PID can cause infertility and ectopic pregnancy.

An ectopic pregnancy occurs when the fertilized egg implants someplace other than the uterus - usually a fallopian tube. The fertilized egg may begin developing in the tube. (This is called a tubal pregnancy.) If left untreated, the tube will burst. This can result in the woman's death. Chlamydia infection can be transmitted from mother to infant during birth, leading to eye infection and possible blindness, pneumonia, and ear infections.

While using condoms with spermicides will help prevent the spread of chlamydia, a very high number of sexually active teens do not use condoms, even though they know they should. Therefore, they are at great risk of catching and spreading this disease. You can eliminate your risk by abstaining from sex.

PID (pelvic inflammatory disease)

PID (pelvic inflammatory disease) affects a million women per year. The highest rate of infection is among teenagers. It is caused by different microorganisms, including gonorrhea and chlamydia, and can infect a woman's uterus, ovaries, and fallopian tubes.

Symptoms include abdominal pain and tenderness, nausea, vomiting, chills, fever, and vaginal discharge and bleeding. Some women have no symptoms, but damage still occurs. Sexually active girls are at risk for this disease, which can be extremely serious, even fatal.

PID cause inflammation and scarring of the fallopian tubes, which may lead to an ectopic pregnancy. A bad PID infection can require hospitalization and can cause sterility within a few weeks.

Even though PID can be cured with antibiotics, it may already have caused irreversible damage to a girl's reproductive system before she begins taking antibiotics.

Because sexually active teens often forget to use condoms or are too embarrassed to use them, they are at risk of getting PID. Teens who do not have sex are less likely to get a PID infection.

NGU (nongonococcal urethritis)

NGU (nongonococcal urethritic) is usually associated with male symptoms, but the organisms (such as chlamydia) that cause NGU can easily be transmitted to women.

Boys with NGU may experience burning and itching around the opening of the penis, burning urination, and discharge from the penis. If untreated NGU can lead to scarring of the urethra, causing problems with urination and ejaculation. Infection of the testicles can cause a boy to become sterile.

HPV (human papilloma virus)

Genital warts are caused by some types of types of HIV (human papilloma virus). Each year there are a million new cases of genital warts.

Up to 90 percent of teens who have unprotected sex with an infected person will get HPV. It may take as long as eight months for the warts to develop. They appear as hard, wrinkled, cauliflower-shaped bumps on the inner thighs, genital or anal areas. They can multiply quickly. They are treated with laser surgery, chemicals, and liquid nitrogen, but there no real cure. The virus can lie dormant in the cells and cause recurrent flare-ups of warts.

If an infant is exposed to HPV during birth, it is possible for the virus to lodge in the child's larynx, windpipe, and lungs, eventually causing serious breathing problems.

Some types of HPV are link to cervical cancer in women. Cervical cancer kills thousands of women every year. Some experts say that girls who become sexually active before eighteen are more likely to develop cervical cancer from HPV than women who postpone sex. One study of college women found that one out of four women developed some form of HPV within a year of becoming sexually active.

Generally, you can avoid HPV by avoiding skin-to-skin vaginal, anal, or oral sex. Condom use during intercourse is helpful, though not completely effective in preventing the transmission of HPV. The best way to keep from getting this disease is to abstain from sex.

Gonorrhea 

 Gonorrhea is highly contagious. There may be as many as three-quarters of a million teenagers with gonorrhea. Ninety percent of women with gonorrhea don't know they have it and unknowingly pass it on to partner after partner. Twenty percent of male victims are unaware they are infected.

Symptoms may include discharge from the penis or vagina, burning urination, and, in girls, cramps and abnormal periods. But there may be NO symptoms

The gonorrhea bacterium can cause skin lesions, damage to the eyes, crippling arthritis, damage to the heart valves, and can result in stroke and heart failure. Gonorrhea can cause sterility in both sexes.

In women, gonorrhea can result in pelvic in inflammatory disease. Each year, 100,000 women in the U.S. are made sterile by gonorrhea.

In men, gonorrhea can cause scarring in the urethra, which carries urine and semen to the penis. Painful ejaculation and extremely painful urination can result; later it may become impossible for the infected person to urinate. Even when no symptoms are present, the prostate and testicles can become badly infected, and  sterility can result.

Gonorrhea has been linked to cancer of the prostate in men. It can cause impotence (the inability to perform normal sexual sexual intercourse). It is estimated that having gonorrhea increases the possibility of catching AIDS from an infected person by as much as 100 times.

The best way to avoid gonorrhea is to abstain from sexual activity. Condoms and spermicide will reduce the chance of spreading this disease, yet teens who know better often do not use protection.

Syphilis

Syphilis is call "a silent killer." It is caused by a highly contagious, spiral-shape bacterium that enters the body, usually during sexual intercourse. It can also be transmitted by kissing, so NEVER kiss anyone with a sore on their mouth!

The first sign of syphilis is a painless blister, or chancre, on the genitals at the site of entry. This chancre may develop a month after sexual intercourse and usually disappears within a few weeks. The victim may be unaware of its existence.

During the second stage of syphilis, there may or may not be symptoms. Symptoms might include a sore throat, fever, headache, or skin rash. The victim might not think much of these symptoms.

During the early part of the third stage of syphilis causes heart disease, blindness, deafness, paralysis, insanity, and death.

Treatment for syphilis requires antibiotics. Some victims, unaware of their infections, go untreated.

Babies can be infected with syphilis during childbirth, resulting in blindness, brain damage, and death.

Condoms and spermicides used consistently are good protection against syphilis. However, the surest way for teenagers to avoid syphilis is to abstain from sex.

Herpes

Genital herpes is an incurable STD. One out of every five Americans over age twelve has herpes. The more sexual partners you have, the more likely you are to catch it. Sexually active teens are at great risk.

Once herpes enters your body, it never leaves. You have it for life.

Herpes is spread through vaginal, anal, or oral sex.

It is often said that an infected individual can transmit the disease to a partner only when there is an active outbreak of herpes sores present. This is not true. The disease can also be transmitted in the twenty-four hours before the sores erupt, and the infected individual may be unaware that an outbreak is about to occur. Herpes can also be spread by carries who have no idea they are infected.

During an outbreak of herpes, the victim may experience inflamed skin, bumps or blisters in the genital area, pain, itching, burning, flu-like symptoms, swollen glands muscle aches, headache, infection of the urethra, and burning urination. On average, herpes victims experience four recurrences of recurrences of symptoms in a year. The virus may sometimes relocate to the buttocks.

During those periods when the victim has no symptoms, the herpes virus can reside at the base of the skull or spine. Outbreaks may be triggered by vigorous sexual activity, diet, stress, illness, and menstruation.

The use of condoms is not a guarantee of protection against herpes, because sores can be present in areas not covered by a condom.

The presence of genital herpes sores makes it easier for HIV and other DTDs to find an entry point in the genital area.

        In pregnant women, herpes causes an increased risk of premature birth and miscarrage. Infants born to mothers with herpes may suffer skin blisters, brain and organ infections, mental retardation, birth defects, and death. More than half of these babies are born to mothers who do not realize that they are infected with herpes.

        Herpes affects its victims not only physically but also emotionally. Those infected may experience panic, fear, depression, and feelings of hopelessness and  worthlessness.

        Considering the fact that forty million Americans have this disease, the only way for teens to eliminate their risk of catch it is to abstain from sex. Because of embarrassment, teenagers who are infected with herpes are not likely to tell their potential partners. They may use poor judgment about selecting times they think are safe for sexual activity. If they misjudge, they infect their partners.

        Scabies and public lice

       Scabies and lice are small insects that can be passed from one person to the next during close contact. They are highly contagious and can cause intense itching.

       Public lice look like  microscopic crabs. They are bloodsuckers. Scabies burrow beneath human skin to lay eggs. Scratching these irritated area can lead to other infection.

         Shattered lives

        There are thirteen million new STD cases in the U.S.every year. But this is only a statistic. It cannot describe the physical pain or feelings of despair and depression that STD victim experience.

        Later in life, when STD victims marry and try to begin a family, some discover that they are infertile, unable to have children. The diagnosis of infertility can threaten the survival of their marriage. One partner may feel angry and betrayed by the other. Both feel cheated out of their natural right to reproduce and care for a family.

        A woman writes to columnist Ann Landers describing the result of the "casual attitude" she once had about sex:

 Dear Ann:

 I am a thirty-four-year-old married women who is trying to become pregnant, but it doesn't look promissing. All I have ever wanted in life was to be mother, but I don't know if I will ever be able to have a child because of my past.

When I was in college, I became sexually active. I slept with more men than I care to admit....Somewhere in my wild days, I picked up an infection that left me infertile......It seems the scar tissue damaged the in side of my fallopian tubes ......I am now married to wonderful man who very much wants children, and the guide I feel is overwhelming ......I am writing this letter with the hope that I can save others the heartache that I am going through.

                                                                            - Suffering in St. Louis
Fifteen to 30 percent of U.S.couples who can't have children were made infertile by STDs.

Teens considering becoming sexual active should think very carefully about the risks of STDs - for themselves, for the baby that could result from an accident pregnancy, and for their future marriage. By abstaining from sexual activity, you can avoid the heartache of sexual transmitted disease.

                             
 
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