Monday, September 16, 2013

7 Surprisingly Common Sex Injuries

7 Surprisingly Common Sex Injuries ...
 
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Have you ever wondered what the most common sex injuries are? If you are anything like me, you probably have. I’ve managed to cause nosebleeds, headbutt at inappropriate times and scratch…and I’m generally quite gentle! A recent study suggested that sex injuries are much more common than we’d like to believe, and shared a number of real-life stories to back up the top 30. So here’s the top common sex injuries you should be aware of…

1. Feline Fine?

Hands up if you think this will be about scratches? Well, it’s not. Surprisingly, cat attacks are the most common sex injury. There are hundreds of reports of serious injury each year due to cats “protecting” their owners and getting their claws out, including deep scratches to several sensitive body parts. Ouch. While I still can’t quite believe that furry cats cause the most common sex injuries, I’ll be kicking them off the bed from now on!

2. Sexy Eyes…

Very intense orgasms do increase your blood flow dramatically – and some people experience ruptured blood vessels, which cause the eyes to go red and can affect vision. Although it’s temporary and usually has no long-lasting consequences, this is something I’m very keen to avoid. Ick.

3. Feeling Secure…

A woman in Australia hit the headlines last year when she tried to sue her employers for a sex-related injury. She claimed she was having sex in a hotel room while away on business when the glass light fell onto her head, and caused some serious injuries to her face and mouth. Unsurprisingly, her employers rejected the claim – but before you get busy, make sure you aren’t likely to get hit by anything!

4. Lube Issues…

Too embarrassed to go and buy lube? It’s probably worth the blushes – especially if you’ve got no alternative. Another unfavorable headline involved a young man and his girlfriend who decided to use his grandma’s nitroglycerin paste as lubricant. It caused their blood pressures to plummet, and both were found unconscious and naked. Probably not such a great idea, then.

5. Broken Glass…

Enjoying a glass of wine to get in the mood is common – but make sure that you put the glasses somewhere safe! There’s a rising number of glass-related sex incidents being treated at hospitals around the country, and wine glasses are the second most broken item during sex – only beds break more frequently. Avoid any painful cuts (or embarrassing extractions!) by clearing away glasses before you get busy.

6. Heart Health…

Been told to take it easy? Remember that sex is actually a form of exercise, and depending on your activity levels, can burn over 300 calories per hour. The latest Journal of the American Medical Association found that you have triple the chance of having a heart attack just after energetic sex, so look after your heart and avoid anything too intensive when necessary.

7. Hickey Horrors…

Did you know a hickey could cause a stroke? Neither did a woman from New Zealand until her husband gave her one during a sex session, and paralyzed her left arm. Medical investigations showed that the hickey was so strong it had created a blood clot in the woman’s neck, and caused a minor stroke, leading to the paralysis. The lesson? Unless you are a vampire, leave the biting elsewhere.
Have you ever suffered from these common sex injuries? It seems everything from broken bones to sprains and scratches are possible after sex, and there are some crazy true-life stories out there too. Suffered from one of these, or another injury? I’d love to hear about it!  (allwomenstalk)


7 Worst Types of Sex to Be Aware of


7 Worst Types of Sex to Be Aware of ...
 By Melanie

I really enjoy writing blogs, and today I want to cover the 7 worst types of sex. Right now, without reading what I have below, think about the worst types of sex in your book – then, read mine, that I have posted in the blog below and see, if I named a couple that are on your list as well.

 

1. “I-Don’t-Really-Want-to-Do-It” Type of Sex

You know what I’m talking about – I think this is one of the worst types of sex. When the partner really does not want to do it, but they do it anyway simply because they think the other one is going to be upset if they don’t do it. Yeah, that type of sex.

2. Injured Sex

You would think that having something as little as a sprained ankle would not put a damper in bed, but it can. Just ask someone who has a sprained ankle right now and see what they tell you. Sure, it’s possible, but it might not be the best.

3. Sad Sex

Sad sex is definitely going to be on my list. It’s merely impossible to feel sexual when sad. I think it would be hard to do it with someone, when they are sad and look like they are going to cry right in the middle of it. Somewhere, I actually read that women’s tears have a chemical in them that turns a man off.

4. “Not-in-Love-Just-for-Fun” Sex

The just for fun type of sex, in my book, is bad. Sure, if you are in love and have sex “just for fun,” then there’s nothing wrong with it. Do you understand what I am getting at?

5. Forced Sex

Forced sex should definitely be on the list of worst types of sex to have. I shouldn’t have to go any further than this. It’s wrong, it’s damagin

 

6. BDSM

For some, BDSM can be fun. However, a lot of people do not like this type of sex. I never understood why someone would want to be abusive during this time. I mean, come on, isn’t this a time when you are supposed to be giving your partner love?
g, it’s also illegal. HELLO!

7. Drunken Sex

Drunken sex in any way, shape or form is going to be one of the worst types of sex. At least, in my opinion it would be. I think that it is even worse when you wake up the next morning and don’t remember having sex, but the details and reminders are all around you.
There you have it – the 7 worst types of sex according to my book.  I am sure there are a few more to list,  so, in your opinion, what is the worst type of sex a girl should be aware and clearly stay away from? (allwomenstalk)

7 Big Differences between Sex And Love

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There are many differences between sex and love. Women enjoy seeing passionate love making in the movies, but sometimes are disappointed by their own experience that doesn’t even come close. There is something so sensual and beautiful when two people have chemistry together. But that isn’t always the case when it comes to sex. Sometimes people have sex just to have sex.  Below,  I’m going to share with you 8 big differences between sex and love!

1. Knowing Each Other

The first time you are with someone can sometimes be a bit awkward. It takes time to get to know someone’s body and pleasure points. When you are in love with someone the time you put into getting to know each other’s bodies is intimate. You take pleasure in making sure you know what makes them tick. When you have sex with someone and you’re just doing it to do it, that is a clear difference between sex and love. Sex is a physical act and when looking at it without any spark or chemistry thats when the love is missing.

2. Friends with Benefits

A lot of people say you can’t be friends with benefits without someone developing feelings, which does tend to be true. But what is going on before those feelings are involved is simply a platonic need to fill ones craving for sex. If you both find each other attractive, and can turn each other on, then why not enjoy the benefits? When the feelings do become involved it becomes more then just a physical act. But again, they are feelings and emotions which is what love is. So just remember if you want to enjoy the friends part, stick to keeping a clear vision that it is not a relationship!  Remember, having fears of being intimate is something that everyone deals with.

3. Foreplay

One of the best things I have heard is foreplay doesn’t start in the bedroom, it starts in the flirting. When you first meet someone and have that chemistry, the sexual tension in itself is foreplay. Sex is just an action, but falling in love includes the foreplay. Foreplay means you don’t want to rush sex, you want to take your time and enjoy every bit of it. When there is no foreplay there’s no desire in wanting to please each other, and that is a major difference between sex and love.

4. Orgasm

A lot of people misconstrue an orgasm as love. That toe curling, body shaking, want to scream from the top of your lungs feeling doesn’t mean you just experienced love. It is just another part of sex, but getting to that moment does include intense passion and love between a partner. it’s hard to find yourself having the big “O” without being able to connect with the person.

5. Sex Is a Release

Sex isn’t just about romance. Sometimes people use sex as a release the same way you want an after work drink. This is a big difference between sex and love. Love includes emotions, while sex is just the action. Having sex with someone is a release for yourself and can be a purely selfish motive. When you are doing it for that reason, it’s not about love.

6. Selflessness

Love makes you want to please every part of your partner physically and emotionally. There is something about it that feeds you inside. Think of every romance movie you have seen where the guy courts, woos, and pleasures the woman he is fond over. It is never a rushed experience, but a sensual, caressing, and selfless moment. This is a big difference between sex and love. In comparison, sex can be fast with a goal of get off, and get done. When you’re motive is selfish it’s not about the love.

7. Chemistry

Think of the movie, ‘How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days’ where Matthew McConaghey and Kate Hudson have that epic moment in the shower where you literally see them fall in love with each other. It is not the most romantic love story but it is one I feel most women can relate too. There’s that moment in a relationship when you connect with your partner on a new level, “love making” as most people call it.

That chemistry is something two people can create only when you have love between you two. Of course you can have sexual attraction to each other and a spark. That’s what makes sex hot and steamy, but it is not the full definition of lovemaking. There’s all different levels of chemistry with someone, its just seeing where you truly connect.

A lot of times girls get confused with the differences between sex and love, but I hope these are helpful in relating to your experiences. With these in mind, whether you are single or in a relationship, think about how you feel when you are with someone and if its truly love or truly a hot, steamy, passionate sex endeavor? Have you ever confused sex with love? (allwomenstalk)

8 Things No One Told You about Sex

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Ever wondered if there are things that no one told you about sex? Whether you learnt from sex education, hands-on experience or watching sexy programs on TV, there is no one comprehensive source for sex information, so how do you know if you’ve missed out on vital knowledge? A recent international study drew up a list of things that most participants didn’t know – how well do you score? Take a look at some of the things no one told you about sex.

1. Female Ejaculation Exists…

Some people claimed to have heard of this but branded it false, and over 50% of respondents had no idea that women can ejaculate – which has to make this one of the top things that no one told you about sex – and some even wrote that it was actually escaped urine. Luckily, it’s not! Doctors have monitored the sexual lives of a group of women who claimed to have this talent, and confirmed that the fluid is neither urine nor lubrication. It’s a clear fluid that is released from the urethra, and it varies in amount. It doesn’t happen for everyone, so don’t fret if you never experience it – but don’t worry if you do, either.

2. It Doesn’t Always Work…

In theory, any woman can have sex with any man. But in practice, it doesn’t work like that. Break it down a little and you’ll understand why: we don’t expect every key to fit every lock, and genitalia is the same. Luckily, there are positions that can make sex possible even if the parts are too big or small. Positions where you are in charge of the depth can be brilliant for both, and using sex toys is another great way to boost your sex life. There are solutions, if you are adventurous enough to find them!

3. Left Is Best…

Some sex therapists claim that the left side of the clitoris is the most pleasurable – and there are currently studies going on the confirm if the left side of the vagina has more nerves in general, making it the more pleasurable side. While it’s not confirmed, all the preliminary studies reported that women who focused on their left side had more fun – so give it a go, and see if it works for you.

4. All Men Have Sensitive Anal Areas…

But that doesn’t mean all men want them stimulated! It’s just a good area to explore. Many old guides to sex claimed that only gay men would enjoy anal stimulation, but in reality it’s packed with nerves for any man, and prostate stimulation can cause intense orgasms. See if he’s game after a few glasses of wine, and you could bring a whole new element to the bedroom.

5. Lube up…

Many women don’t produce enough natural lubrication. Many women find sex dry and painful. What was obvious from the study results is that there is a big correlation between the two groups, but many haven’t invested in lube to see that it could solve all their problems. Most drugstores carry lube, it’s cheap and it comes in a variety of formulations, including soothing versions and scented versions. Go with the mantra that wetter is better, and give it a go. It could transform your sex life.

6. Sex Can Be Part of Your Beauty Routine…

During sex, women’s estrogen levels soar – making hair shiny and luscious, and skin glow. It’s as close to the fountain of youth as we’ve got – so use it well! Regular sex can keep you looking great, so make time for it and count it as a beauty treatment. It’s probably a lot cheaper!

7. Sex Lowers Stress Levels…

Sex is ideal for times when you are feeling stressed. It lowers blood pressure levels, and boosts levels of immunoglobulin A, which protects from illnesses and infections such as colds. It can be easy to reject your partner’s advances if your stress levels are high, but if you can make time, you’ll make yourself a lot healthier. And have fun in the meantime. Win!

8. Sex Isn’t Slow…

We’ve all seen those romantic films where sex lasts all night, heard explicit lyrics about emerging for air and probably even had nights where you couldn’t get enough of someone…but on average, sex doesn’t take time. Most sex sessions last under ten minutes, and it can take a lot of self-control to make it last any longer. If he does want to elongate his performance, techniques such as breathing control tend to have good results.

Other lesser-known facts included that the pill can lower your sex drive, sex can work as a painkiller and that falling asleep after sex is completely normal – so generally, we could do with polishing up on every aspect of our sex ed! Do womankind a favor by passing these things no one told you about sex on to someone else – and don’t forget to share your own sex facts with us too! (allwomenstalk)

Dating has a Function



        By Susan Browing Pogany

        Dating is time spent together on a casual, friendly level - without sex. Dating has an important function. It helps you learn about yourself, your needs, what kind of person you get along best with, what you want from a relationship, and what you have to offer a partner. You need this discovery process to build a foundation for adult relationships. When teens move on to sex and sidestep the process of dating, they are risking their chance to really get to know their partner. Just because they're having sex doesn't mean they can communicate maturely. And it doesn't mean they've learned to handle sex in a mature way. Dating a number of partners over many years helps give you that maturity.

        Sex is the most intimate from of contact. why share something so intimate when the two of you haven't yet explored each other deepest thoughts and feelings over a long period? Sex is not the way to get to know someone better.

       How sad to be in a sexual relationship and realize, "We don't really have much to say to each other."

       Samantha, seventeen, explains, "I thought I was so ready to find someone to love that I could have this passionate, sexual relationship with. I just had a feeling that it would make me mature, and I thought it would really mean something to feel so loved by another person. But it didn't turn out that way. I ended up sleeping with this guy, Ben, whom I'd had a crush on since freshman year. It happened at a party at my friend Ellie's house when her folks were away. I was sure it was the start of something between us, which is what I wanted, but at school the next week he didn't even want to talk to me. I felt like the worst sleaze. And I was so scared I was pregnant."   (Sex Smart)

       

Teen with All Wrong about Sex

 21 Signs It Is Just Sex Not a Relationship ...

          By Susan Browing Pogany

          Many teens find the sexual experience unhappy because they realize they began having sex for all the wrong reasons. Here are some of them:


  • Curious - they want to experience or to get experience
  • They want to be cool or popular, or to impress their friends
  • As an escape from loneliness
  • As an escape from boredom
  • As an expression of rebellion or anger toward their parents
  • Because they think everyone is doing it
  • To keep a girlfriend or boyfriend who is pressuring them
  • Boy want to be macho, prove they're men
  • Some girls, too, want to show they're tough
  • As a means of communication
  • Trying to score with as many partners as possible
  • They want affection and intimacy
  • They're afraid their partner's feelings will be hurt if they say no
  • They think their partner will love them more
  • They want to prove they're mature
  • They want to get it over with
             Young people who have sex for these reasons can have an empty, sad experience and may feel ashamed later. (Sex Smart)

                                     

Can Teen Sex Affect Your Later Marriage

 15 Ways to Make a Guy Go Crazy over You ...

          By Susan Browing Pogany

          Partners who have had premarital sex are more than twice as likely to commit adultery (have sex with someone outside of their marriage) after they are married. As a result, their marriages are undermined by suspicions, lack of harmony, and by one partner's discovery of the other's lack of faithfulness.

         One effect of premarital sex is that later on, sex within marriage may seen less exciting. Partners may have relished the premarital thrill of getting away with something forbidden so much that they come to miss this excitement. Married sex may seem dull by comparison. This letdown may push partners to try to relive this thrill through adultery, Short explains. This puts their marriage at great risk.

        Couples who had sex before marriage are less likely to be satisfied with their married sex lives. One partner may compare the other's sexual abilities or responses with those of previous partners. Even though their marriage partner has normal responses and normal sexual skills, they may think longingly of the wildly erotic behavior of some previous lover and feel cheated and unhappy.

       Dating couples who can't hold off on sex may be blinded by it, writes Short. The intensity of the sex can fool them into thinking they're meant for each other. Only after they are married do they discover that the main thing holding them together was sex.

        Premarital sex can cause one or the other marriage partner to be sexually "inhibited" - unable to share and enjoy sex, one partner felt guilty about doing something wrong. Every time that partner premarital sex, it was associated with guilt and shame. Even after marriage, the partner continues to think of sex as something bad. Such as marriage partner just can't "let go" and enjoy sex as freely as they could have if sex had been postponed until marriage. It may take years to get over this bad feeling. Sex counselors say this is an extremely common problem and leads to less happy marriages.

       Sociologist Short believes that another reason premarital sex breaks up marriages is that it robs couples of the "sexual cement" that can hold them together. He explains that the first years of a marriage are the roughest period of adjustment for a young couple. This is when a marriage is most likely to break up. He says that the first year or two that a couple begin having sex is the most thrilling sexually. If this period of exciting sex occurs during the same year or so that they are going through the difficult early period of adjusting to marriage and each other, then good sex can cement their love and marriage. However, if they had a year or so of premarital sex, then "that precious bonding of sex that could have helped hold them together while they worked out their problems has been largely lost.

        Couples may be pushed into a bad marriage by guilt over sex. If two people think they are in love, and if they become engaged, they may decide that sex is finally okay, but only because they are doing it with the one they will marry. However, if either partner late feels there are good reasons for breaking off the engagement, they may feel obligated to go ahead and marry because they have shared the gift of their virginity.
 (One out of every three engaged couples breaks off the engagement before marrying, Short explains.)

        "My mon and dad waited until they married, and seeing how much they love each other now after all those years makes me want that for my marriage," says one eighteen-year-old.

        A young woman named Kristen says "that if both partners are virgins on their wedding night, "there will be an incredible feeling of trust and closeness like no other."

        She adds, "I am so sick of hearing all that crap about ' you need to know [ your partner ] in every aspect before you get married. ' well, if you want to know how your mate will be in bed, you can measure them by level of passion in their kiss and in the way they treat you."

       When it comes to sexual compatibility, almost any couple who love each other can achieve a happy sex life, writes Short. He states that the best sex is married sex.

       Having premarital sex to test your compatibility can spoil things. You're not shopping for a sex object. You're looking for a life time partner and best friend. (Sex Smart)

                                     

Love and Sex


      By Susan Browing Pogany
    

      "Sex is not a three-letter word for love," "Love that is real is a developing emotion, slow and steady....[ it involves ] a willingness to invest time and effort in developing the potential of a relation- ship."

       A young man explains, "I thought that sleeping together would deepen our relationship. But we just didn't know each other well enough. It turned out we were too different. I was sorry, and I felt guilty."

       Twenty-three-year-old Kim recalls, "I was sixteen and a virgin when I started dating Brian. He was great looking, older, sophisticated. I thought about him every minute. I was completely in love. After a few weeks, we were having sex - in fact, we did it every time we had a chance to be together.

       "At first, I was so happy being with him, but then I got scared and upset. I was afraid he would leave me, and I felt kind of guilty. Here I was sleeping with this guy, and I was starting to figure out that he didn't feel about me like I did about him. I was so sure I love him, but I realize now that I didn't really know him. I didn't know then what it means to really know a guy. The truth is that, after a while, the biggest thing between us was sex.

       "One night when he brought me home, he said goodbye in this kind of heavy, serious way. I could just tell he meant it was all over. I was so scared, but couldn't, you know, talk to him about it. Can you believe it? We'd been intimate sexually all those weeks, and I still couldn't really have an intimate conversation with him about us.

      "For months, I felt awful and depressed. I listened to this suicidal music and stared into space for hours. I was completely confused about who I was and what I have done....

       "Then I met Allen. I was so desperate for affection or love or attachment that I started sleeping with him after a couple of weeks. I was exciting for a while, and I told myself I loved him, but I didn't really. I just need to fill loved. It didn't last long, and I ended up feeling even worse about myself.

       "I really wish I hadn't had sex so young. It made me feel bad about myself, and it made me feel like I made stupid decisions. I don't know if I've really gotten over feeling bad about me. I wish I'd waited till I was older." 

       "JJ" comments on the Internet, "If you can't wait, you don't know what love really is."

                               Sex Smart by Susan Browing Pogany


8 Ways to Stay Safe on Campus

 
8 Ways to Stay Safe on Campus ...
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Stay Safe on Campus! It’s time for back to school, and if you’re headed off to college, then you’ll need to know these tips for staying safe while away. Many of them apply to safety no matter where you live, but some are unique to campus life. Here are 8 ways to stay safe on campus — read them, know them, and live by them!

1. Know your way around

If you’re lost, you’re an easy target to on-campus predators. You’ll be confused, distracted, and easy to assault. Keep a campus map in your bag, and don’t wander around alone. If you need help, refer to a map rather than asking a lone stranger. If you do want to ask for help, ask campus police or a group of other women.

2. Know where to blue phones are

Most college campuses have blue-lit emergency phones that will connect you immediately with campus police. Know where they are, and don’t be afraid to use one if you feel unsafe! That’s what they’re there for… but if you don’t know where to find one, they won’t be any good at all.

4. Don’t walk around alone at night

This may sound like a no-brainer, but it’s surprising how many women walk around campus alone at night. You’re really not any safer on campus than you would be in your own neighborhood at home, so why would you engage in riskier behavior away at school? Use the classic buddy system, and don’t walk around alone at night!

 

3. Be aware of your surroundings

Predators are always on the lookout for girls who look down at the ground when they walk and don’t make eye contact, or are distracted with a cell phone or have headphones in. Being aware of your surroundings is one of the best things you can do to stay safe on campus, or anywhere else for that matter! Don’t listen to headphones while you’re walking or jogging, unless you’re in a well-populated public area. Keep your head up, and make eye contact with the people you pass.

5. Make sure someone knows where you are

You don’t have to call and check in with mom and dad every night, but you DO have to make sure that one of your friends knows where you and, who you’re with, and when you’ll be back all the time. Lame? No. Important for your staying safe on campus? Yes, absolutely!

6. Don’t invite anyone back to your dorm!

I don’t care how cute that guy from your Trig class is — he’s a stranger, and you should not be inviting him back to your room! Women thought serial killer Ted Bundy was handsome and charming, which is exactly how he was able to lure them to their deaths. Be careful, and stay safe on campus, by keeping strange boy out of the bedroom!

7. Don’t overload your arms with books

If your arms are laden with books, you’ll be an easy target. I know you need those books and binders, but keep them in a backpack or book bag, slung across your shoulders, rather than being distracted and having your arms and hands full.

8. Report anything suspicious

After 18 years in captivity, during which time she could have been saved by multiple parole officers, do you know what finally saved Jaycee Duggard? A sharp-eyed set of campus police women, both following their instincts that something wasn’t quite right with her. Trust your instincts, and report anything suspicious to campus police. Don’t let them brush you off, either — you could save someone else’s life, and maybe even your own! (allwomenstalk)

9 Ways to Be More Street Smart


9 Ways to Be More Street Smart ...
 
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If the answer to being more book smart was to read more books, then what about how to be more street smart? You only have to read the paper or switch on the morning news to know that your safety should be your top priority at all times. It’s not about being scared or fearful, but having a healthy dose of common sense and habits that will protect you from potential harm. Here’s some pointers on how to be more street smart.

1. Unplug

I love listening to my music as much a fat kid loves cake, but never on the walk home if it is dark or in an area that is quiet or deserted. Not only will you not be able to hear anyone approaching but you are making yourself an easy target. Wearing headphones advertises that you are unaware and off in your own world. The same goes for your early morning or late evening runs ladies; this is top spot on my list of ways to be more street smart for a reason!

2. Say Goodbye

As above, the same goes for talking on your phone. You might say that you do it for your safety but how aware of your surroundings are you whilst telling your BFF about your saucy encounter with the guy from accounts this morning? If anything, have a number on speed dial and have your finger ready so if needs be, you can reach someone at the touch of a button.

3. Act Out

When it comes to your safety forget your pride. If something or someone is giving you the heebie jeebies then do what you need to do to remove yourself from the situation. I once noticed a group of men walking behind me one night and felt uneasy about it, so I legged it to the closest main road. Who cares what they thought? If they were harmless then okay, they may have thought that I was a little odd; but if they were indeed looking to make trouble then I saved myself from being involved in it.

4. Speak up

If you are approached by someone who you think is potentially dangerous and you are in a public place, then speak loudly and be firm. Attackers are cowards at heart, if you show them with your tone, posture and eye contact that you are neither meek nor weak but assertive, strong and confident, they will soon realise that you are anything but an easy target. Even if you are not feeling it inside, fake it until you make it.

5. Hide The Bling

One way to be more street smart is to not advertise that you have money or nice things. Keep your phone, laptop or iPod in your bag if you are unsure about the area you are in, and put your money in your purse as soon as you have withdrawn it from a cash machine instead of standing there counting it. Also, try to get into the practise of wearing your bag across your shoulder; no one will attempt to grab it unless they plan to drag you down the road with it!

6. Know Your Options

I am feeling a bit like an S.A.S agent here, with all these ‘Street Smart’ tips and my next point only highlights that- know your options. Wherever you are be aware of your surroundings. Where is the closest place to go if you got in trouble? Where are the exits? Are there Police in the area? It sounds a bit O.C.D but for the hundreds of times these practices may not be necessary, if the situation were to arise only once they would be imperative.

7. Gut Feeling

When it comes to how to be more street smart, listening to your gut has got to be up there. You often instinctively know if something is not quite right or potentially unsafe, listen to your instincts and act on them. If your gut starts to tell you that you need to leave, run, or move away from a situation or person, then do yourself a favour and follow it.

8. Say It with Your Step

When I think of a street smart female images of a ‘Dangerous Minds’, bandanna wearing ‘Jenny from the block’ type springs to mind. If you want to be the part then you have to play the part. I am not saying sag your pants and put on a pair of hoop earrings larger than the size of your head, but walk like you woke up this morning and downed a bottle of ‘ I’m actually quite lovely but f*** with me and things are going to get ugly’. I mean it- stand tall, shoulders back, eyes ahead and let any potential ‘troublemaker’ know that you will not go quietly.

9. Forward Thinking

To take the stress out of situations and ensure your safety plan ahead. If you are heading home late at night then checkout the best route possible earlier in the day, or arrange to meet someone at your end destination. If you are going anywhere that you haven’t been before get on google Maps and know the route. You’ll have more confidence knowing what you are doing and won’t look like a lost lamb waiting for trouble. (allwomenstalk)

What to Do When Elevator Starts to Fall




         
        If the elevator breaks and falls, you think that you're going to die. However, if you calm down and know how to apply some of the following tips, the situation will be different.

        * First, quickly press any button in the elevator. When emergency power supply unit is active, then the elevator will stop falling further

        * Then grip the handrails when available. This will make you hold your position and not fall or crash into the elevator when out of balance.

        *  Lean your back and head onto the wall of the elevator, forming a vertical line to protect the back and spine.

        * Keep knees bent to create flexibility, help to minimize the shocks that can drastically create severe foot fractures when it crashes.

        Share these tips to everyone to know 

HOW TO BE SAFE ON THE STREET FROM RAPISTS



        A Group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

       1. The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a women with long hair, women with short hair are not common targets.

       2. The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

       3. They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

       4. Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00 a.m and 8:30 a.m

       5. The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store, parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms.

       6. The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

       7. Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3 - 5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15 - 20 years.

       8. If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only take a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it beacause it will be time-consuming.

       9. These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

       Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

       10. Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out here", we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

       11. If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or shower that she would not be afraid to fight back, Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

       12. If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

       13. If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERRY VERRY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it hurts.

       14. After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.

       15. When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible! The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

       16. Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!

       You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

       1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

       2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans. If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you..... chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

        3. If you are ever thrown into the truck of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

        4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, et.c., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, ec.t. DON'T DO THIS!) The predator will be watch you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him  to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

       a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

        5. A few! notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

        A. Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the and in the back seat.

        B. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door . Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

        C. Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.

        IT IS AWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

        6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)

13 Reasons Why Women Say “No” to Anal Sex

13 Reasons Why Women Say "No" to Anal Sex ...
 By Melanie

First of all, I am going to be very open with the readers of my blog. I am not against anal sex. If you do it with the one you love and do it right, it can be fun. However, I have recently read a blog on here that a guy posted called 5 Reasons Why Men Like Anal Sex … I have to give kudos to him, because he listed some great reasons in my book.

However, this is not the first time I have researched the subject. I have noticed a lot of girls out there that say “No” when it comes to anal sex. When I was reading the comments to the blog I previously told you about, I found many reasons as to why they say no to anal sex. Below, I am going to give you 13 reasons that I found in previous blog entries (real women who say “no) on anal sex…

13. It hurts

Do you know how many posts I have seen where women say it hurts? This seems to be the top reason as to why women are saying no to anal sex.

12. Anal sex is a good way to get AIDS

I actually saw that in a blog post. According to research I have done, you cannot get aids from anal sex, unless the person already has aids. However, again, I have found that this is a reason many women give. Maybe it is an excuse to get out of anal sex?

11. It is a homosexual desire

While I do not believe this, again, I have found many women out there that say that it is a homosexual desire.

10. Why there?

Why would any guy want to put his penis up there in that dirty place? Yes, I actually saw that posted on a blog and well, many girls do agree with this poster.

9. The eeky factor

That is just plain out disgusting for many women and there’s not much that can be done about that.

8. It’s pointless

From the anatomical point of view there simply can be no pleasure out of anal sex for women. Seriously. There’s nothing up there that can actually make it feel good.

7. Lack of trust

I do not trust my man enough to have anal sex with him.

6. I am saving anal sex for a very very very very special day.

Somehow, I think that very very very special day is never going to get there for that girl. However, it is a very good reason.

5. It’s too big

The guys penis is just waaaay too big to go up in that little bitty hole.

4. We might bleed

When some girls have anal sex, they bleed out of the area and many women do not want to go through this. Women who are dealing with hemorrhoids say no to anal sex.

3. Droplets? No thanks.

Droplets coming out of the derriere are far from being sexy. Yes, that was from a blog post I read. Some women feel that it is not sexy at all.

2. It might cause health problems

There was one girl in a post that said she had too much anal sex and it stretched out her butt and caused her to have some problems. One of those problems was the fact that she could not control it. Do you think this could actually happen?

1. It’s just not for me

Anal sex is just not something that is enjoyed by some women. Not wanting it and not enjoying it should be enough to say no. Don’t you think? (allwomenstalk.com)

Sexually Transmitted Diseases

8 Tips on How to Decide If It's Time to Break up ...
      

  By Susan Browing Pogany

  One false move and you're infected

  "I always though of myself as a clean person. I shower every day. My girlfriend was clean. In fact, she was beautiful. But she gave me gonorrhea. I couldn't believe it. Now I feel dirty, like I'm infested with bugs or something. "

  "I hadn't known Tim very long, but he was such a gorgeous guy, I let myself go. I thought about using some kind of protection, but what was I supposed to do - stop everything and order him to put on a condom? He probably would have gotten mad. I was on the Pill anyway. So it just seem easier to forget it. A month later, I had genital warts. It's been horrible."

  a young girl explains, "I could swear I never had any sign that I had a disease down there. No irritation, no pus - nothing! Then I started having this awful pain in my stomach. I tried to ignore it but it got so terrible I had to see a doctor. I was really sick. She said I had chlamydia, that I'd probably had it along time without knowing it. It infected me deep inside, and now I may never be able to have kids. I still can't believe this happen to me."

 MORE THAN TWENTY-FIVE DISEASES ARE SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED.

  Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) spread from one person to another during sexual intercourse or close body contact - contact involving the penis, vagina, rectum, or mouth. The Sexual Revolution has brought about an epidemic of STDs.

  STDs spread faster among teenagers than any other group. Any teen - rich, poor, black, white, city or country dweller - can get an STDs. STDs can make you very sick, can kill you, and can make you unable to have children. They can be transmitted to babies during childbirth, causing blindness, retardation, and death. Many teens with STDs have no ideas they are infected and, therefore, do not seek treatment. They continue, unknowingly, to spread these diseases.

  Some STDs can be treated and cured. Some cannot be cured. Some are developing a resistance to antibiotics. Some STDs cause sore in your genital area that give HIV/AIDS an easy entry point into your body.


Every year, three million teenagers get an STD. If you are sexually active, there's a fifty - fifty chance you'll get an STD by age twenty-five.

It is estimated that one out of four sexually active teenage girls has an STD. Women catch these diseases more easily than men due to body differences. During unprotected intercourse with an infected partner, women are twice as likely to catch some STDs, including chlamydia and gonorrhea.

Because STDs are harder to detect in women, many women are unaware they are infected until their reproductive systems are so damaged that they can never have children.

The younger the girl, the more susceptible she is to these infections. This may because the cervix (the opening to the uterus). is immature and because the girl has fewer protective. antibodies.

There no way to know if your partner is free from infection. They may not be truthful with you, may be too embarrassed to tell you, or may have a disease and not know it. In fact, your partner could have two sexually transmitted diseases at the same time and not know it.

The only sure way of protecting your self against STDs is to abstain from vaginal, anal, and oral sex. If condom with spermicides were used during every sexual intercourse by teenagers, they would provide fairly good protection, but it is a fact that many teens do not use condom consistently. The  following are a few of the most common STDs.

Chlamydia

Chlamydia is the number one STD in the US. Each year there are four million new cases - that's 11,000 new cases every day! The chlamydia microorganism can attack the reproductive systems of both men and women. Many victims have no symptoms and don't seek treatment. They continue to infect others.

Every year one out of seven girls and one out of ten boys is infected with chlamydia.

Chlamydia symptoms may include burning, itching, discharge from the vaginal or penis, burning urination, abdominal or lower back pain, fever, and pain and swelling in the  testicles. Seventy- five percent of women and 25 percent of men have no symptoms until this infection has caused serious complications.

Chlamydia symptoms may include burning, itching, discharge from the vagina or penis, burning urination, abdominal or lower back pain, fever, and pain and swelling in the testicles. Seventy-five percent of women and 25 percent of men have no symptoms until this infection has caused serious complications.

Chlamydia damages the reproductive systems of both young men and women and can cause sterility or infertility - the inability to have children in the future. Chlamydia can lead to infections of a girl's cervix and fallopian tubes (the tubes where sperm meet egg), causing, scarring, infertility, sterility.

Chlamydia can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease (PID - discussed below), a serious and painful illness. Victims can end up with ongoing, long-term pelvic pain. PID can cause infertility and ectopic pregnancy.

An ectopic pregnancy occurs when the fertilized egg implants someplace other than the uterus - usually a fallopian tube. The fertilized egg may begin developing in the tube. (This is called a tubal pregnancy.) If left untreated, the tube will burst. This can result in the woman's death. Chlamydia infection can be transmitted from mother to infant during birth, leading to eye infection and possible blindness, pneumonia, and ear infections.

While using condoms with spermicides will help prevent the spread of chlamydia, a very high number of sexually active teens do not use condoms, even though they know they should. Therefore, they are at great risk of catching and spreading this disease. You can eliminate your risk by abstaining from sex.

PID (pelvic inflammatory disease)

PID (pelvic inflammatory disease) affects a million women per year. The highest rate of infection is among teenagers. It is caused by different microorganisms, including gonorrhea and chlamydia, and can infect a woman's uterus, ovaries, and fallopian tubes.

Symptoms include abdominal pain and tenderness, nausea, vomiting, chills, fever, and vaginal discharge and bleeding. Some women have no symptoms, but damage still occurs. Sexually active girls are at risk for this disease, which can be extremely serious, even fatal.

PID cause inflammation and scarring of the fallopian tubes, which may lead to an ectopic pregnancy. A bad PID infection can require hospitalization and can cause sterility within a few weeks.

Even though PID can be cured with antibiotics, it may already have caused irreversible damage to a girl's reproductive system before she begins taking antibiotics.

Because sexually active teens often forget to use condoms or are too embarrassed to use them, they are at risk of getting PID. Teens who do not have sex are less likely to get a PID infection.

NGU (nongonococcal urethritis)

NGU (nongonococcal urethritic) is usually associated with male symptoms, but the organisms (such as chlamydia) that cause NGU can easily be transmitted to women.

Boys with NGU may experience burning and itching around the opening of the penis, burning urination, and discharge from the penis. If untreated NGU can lead to scarring of the urethra, causing problems with urination and ejaculation. Infection of the testicles can cause a boy to become sterile.

HPV (human papilloma virus)

Genital warts are caused by some types of types of HIV (human papilloma virus). Each year there are a million new cases of genital warts.

Up to 90 percent of teens who have unprotected sex with an infected person will get HPV. It may take as long as eight months for the warts to develop. They appear as hard, wrinkled, cauliflower-shaped bumps on the inner thighs, genital or anal areas. They can multiply quickly. They are treated with laser surgery, chemicals, and liquid nitrogen, but there no real cure. The virus can lie dormant in the cells and cause recurrent flare-ups of warts.

If an infant is exposed to HPV during birth, it is possible for the virus to lodge in the child's larynx, windpipe, and lungs, eventually causing serious breathing problems.

Some types of HPV are link to cervical cancer in women. Cervical cancer kills thousands of women every year. Some experts say that girls who become sexually active before eighteen are more likely to develop cervical cancer from HPV than women who postpone sex. One study of college women found that one out of four women developed some form of HPV within a year of becoming sexually active.

Generally, you can avoid HPV by avoiding skin-to-skin vaginal, anal, or oral sex. Condom use during intercourse is helpful, though not completely effective in preventing the transmission of HPV. The best way to keep from getting this disease is to abstain from sex.

Gonorrhea 

 Gonorrhea is highly contagious. There may be as many as three-quarters of a million teenagers with gonorrhea. Ninety percent of women with gonorrhea don't know they have it and unknowingly pass it on to partner after partner. Twenty percent of male victims are unaware they are infected.

Symptoms may include discharge from the penis or vagina, burning urination, and, in girls, cramps and abnormal periods. But there may be NO symptoms

The gonorrhea bacterium can cause skin lesions, damage to the eyes, crippling arthritis, damage to the heart valves, and can result in stroke and heart failure. Gonorrhea can cause sterility in both sexes.

In women, gonorrhea can result in pelvic in inflammatory disease. Each year, 100,000 women in the U.S. are made sterile by gonorrhea.

In men, gonorrhea can cause scarring in the urethra, which carries urine and semen to the penis. Painful ejaculation and extremely painful urination can result; later it may become impossible for the infected person to urinate. Even when no symptoms are present, the prostate and testicles can become badly infected, and  sterility can result.

Gonorrhea has been linked to cancer of the prostate in men. It can cause impotence (the inability to perform normal sexual sexual intercourse). It is estimated that having gonorrhea increases the possibility of catching AIDS from an infected person by as much as 100 times.

The best way to avoid gonorrhea is to abstain from sexual activity. Condoms and spermicide will reduce the chance of spreading this disease, yet teens who know better often do not use protection.

Syphilis

Syphilis is call "a silent killer." It is caused by a highly contagious, spiral-shape bacterium that enters the body, usually during sexual intercourse. It can also be transmitted by kissing, so NEVER kiss anyone with a sore on their mouth!

The first sign of syphilis is a painless blister, or chancre, on the genitals at the site of entry. This chancre may develop a month after sexual intercourse and usually disappears within a few weeks. The victim may be unaware of its existence.

During the second stage of syphilis, there may or may not be symptoms. Symptoms might include a sore throat, fever, headache, or skin rash. The victim might not think much of these symptoms.

During the early part of the third stage of syphilis causes heart disease, blindness, deafness, paralysis, insanity, and death.

Treatment for syphilis requires antibiotics. Some victims, unaware of their infections, go untreated.

Babies can be infected with syphilis during childbirth, resulting in blindness, brain damage, and death.

Condoms and spermicides used consistently are good protection against syphilis. However, the surest way for teenagers to avoid syphilis is to abstain from sex.

Herpes

Genital herpes is an incurable STD. One out of every five Americans over age twelve has herpes. The more sexual partners you have, the more likely you are to catch it. Sexually active teens are at great risk.

Once herpes enters your body, it never leaves. You have it for life.

Herpes is spread through vaginal, anal, or oral sex.

It is often said that an infected individual can transmit the disease to a partner only when there is an active outbreak of herpes sores present. This is not true. The disease can also be transmitted in the twenty-four hours before the sores erupt, and the infected individual may be unaware that an outbreak is about to occur. Herpes can also be spread by carries who have no idea they are infected.

During an outbreak of herpes, the victim may experience inflamed skin, bumps or blisters in the genital area, pain, itching, burning, flu-like symptoms, swollen glands muscle aches, headache, infection of the urethra, and burning urination. On average, herpes victims experience four recurrences of recurrences of symptoms in a year. The virus may sometimes relocate to the buttocks.

During those periods when the victim has no symptoms, the herpes virus can reside at the base of the skull or spine. Outbreaks may be triggered by vigorous sexual activity, diet, stress, illness, and menstruation.

The use of condoms is not a guarantee of protection against herpes, because sores can be present in areas not covered by a condom.

The presence of genital herpes sores makes it easier for HIV and other DTDs to find an entry point in the genital area.

        In pregnant women, herpes causes an increased risk of premature birth and miscarrage. Infants born to mothers with herpes may suffer skin blisters, brain and organ infections, mental retardation, birth defects, and death. More than half of these babies are born to mothers who do not realize that they are infected with herpes.

        Herpes affects its victims not only physically but also emotionally. Those infected may experience panic, fear, depression, and feelings of hopelessness and  worthlessness.

        Considering the fact that forty million Americans have this disease, the only way for teens to eliminate their risk of catch it is to abstain from sex. Because of embarrassment, teenagers who are infected with herpes are not likely to tell their potential partners. They may use poor judgment about selecting times they think are safe for sexual activity. If they misjudge, they infect their partners.

        Scabies and public lice

       Scabies and lice are small insects that can be passed from one person to the next during close contact. They are highly contagious and can cause intense itching.

       Public lice look like  microscopic crabs. They are bloodsuckers. Scabies burrow beneath human skin to lay eggs. Scratching these irritated area can lead to other infection.

         Shattered lives

        There are thirteen million new STD cases in the U.S.every year. But this is only a statistic. It cannot describe the physical pain or feelings of despair and depression that STD victim experience.

        Later in life, when STD victims marry and try to begin a family, some discover that they are infertile, unable to have children. The diagnosis of infertility can threaten the survival of their marriage. One partner may feel angry and betrayed by the other. Both feel cheated out of their natural right to reproduce and care for a family.

        A woman writes to columnist Ann Landers describing the result of the "casual attitude" she once had about sex:

 Dear Ann:

 I am a thirty-four-year-old married women who is trying to become pregnant, but it doesn't look promissing. All I have ever wanted in life was to be mother, but I don't know if I will ever be able to have a child because of my past.

When I was in college, I became sexually active. I slept with more men than I care to admit....Somewhere in my wild days, I picked up an infection that left me infertile......It seems the scar tissue damaged the in side of my fallopian tubes ......I am now married to wonderful man who very much wants children, and the guide I feel is overwhelming ......I am writing this letter with the hope that I can save others the heartache that I am going through.

                                                                            - Suffering in St. Louis
Fifteen to 30 percent of U.S.couples who can't have children were made infertile by STDs.

Teens considering becoming sexual active should think very carefully about the risks of STDs - for themselves, for the baby that could result from an accident pregnancy, and for their future marriage. By abstaining from sexual activity, you can avoid the heartache of sexual transmitted disease.

                             
 
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