7 Surprisingly Common Sex Injuries

 

 By Kati Blake 

Have you ever wondered what the most common sex injuries are? If you are anything like me, you probably have. I’ve managed to cause nosebleeds, headbutt at inappropriate times and scratch…and I’m generally quite gentle! A recent study suggested that sex injuries are much more common than we’d like to believe, and shared a number of real-life stories to back up the top 30. So here’s the top common sex injuries you should be aware of…

1. Feline Fine?

Hands up if you think this will be about scratches? Well, it’s not. Surprisingly, cat attacks are the most common sex injury. There are hundreds of reports of serious injury each year due to cats “protecting” their owners and getting their claws out, including deep scratches to several sensitive body parts. Ouch. While I still can’t quite believe that furry cats cause the most common sex injuries, I’ll be kicking them off the bed from now on!

2. Sexy Eyes…

Very intense orgasms do increase your blood flow dramatically – and some people experience ruptured blood vessels, which cause the eyes to go red and can affect vision. Although it’s temporary and usually has no long-lasting consequences, this is something I’m very keen to avoid. Ick.

3. Feeling Secure…

A woman in Australia hit the headlines last year when she tried to sue her employers for a sex-related injury. She claimed she was having sex in a hotel room while away on business when the glass light fell onto her head, and caused some serious injuries to her face and mouth. Unsurprisingly, her employers rejected the claim – but before you get busy, make sure you aren’t likely to get hit by anything!

4. Lube Issues…

Too embarrassed to go and buy lube? It’s probably worth the blushes – especially if you’ve got no alternative. Another unfavorable headline involved a young man and his girlfriend who decided to use his grandma’s nitroglycerin paste as lubricant. It caused their blood pressures to plummet, and both were found unconscious and naked. Probably not such a great idea, then.

5. Broken Glass…

Enjoying a glass of wine to get in the mood is common – but make sure that you put the glasses somewhere safe! There’s a rising number of glass-related sex incidents being treated at hospitals around the country, and wine glasses are the second most broken item during sex – only beds break more frequently. Avoid any painful cuts (or embarrassing extractions!) by clearing away glasses before you get busy.

6. Heart Health…

Been told to take it easy? Remember that sex is actually a form of exercise, and depending on your activity levels, can burn over 300 calories per hour. The latest Journal of the American Medical Association found that you have triple the chance of having a heart attack just after energetic sex, so look after your heart and avoid anything too intensive when necessary.

7. Hickey Horrors…

Did you know a hickey could cause a stroke? Neither did a woman from New Zealand until her husband gave her one during a sex session, and paralyzed her left arm. Medical investigations showed that the hickey was so strong it had created a blood clot in the woman’s neck, and caused a minor stroke, leading to the paralysis. The lesson? Unless you are a vampire, leave the biting elsewhere.
Have you ever suffered from these common sex injuries? It seems everything from broken bones to sprains and scratches are possible after sex, and there are some crazy true-life stories out there too. Suffered from one of these, or another injury? I’d love to hear about it!  (allwomenstalk)

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7 Worst Types of Sex to Be Aware of

 By Melanie Melanie

I really enjoy writing blogs, and today I want to cover the 7 worst types of sex. Right now, without reading what I have below, think about the worst types of sex in your book – then, read mine, that I have posted in the blog below and see, if I named a couple that are on your list as well.

 

1. “I-Don’t-Really-Want-to-Do-It” Type of Sex

You know what I’m talking about – I think this is one of the worst types of sex. When the partner really does not want to do it, but they do it anyway simply because they think the other one is going to be upset if they don’t do it. Yeah, that type of sex.

2. Injured Sex

You would think that having something as little as a sprained ankle would not put a damper in bed, but it can. Just ask someone who has a sprained ankle right now and see what they tell you. Sure, it’s possible, but it might not be the best.

3. Sad Sex

Sad sex is definitely going to be on my list. It’s merely impossible to feel sexual when sad. I think it would be hard to do it with someone, when they are sad and look like they are going to cry right in the middle of it. Somewhere, I actually read that women’s tears have a chemical in them that turns a man off.

4. “Not-in-Love-Just-for-Fun” Sex

The just for fun type of sex, in my book, is bad. Sure, if you are in love and have sex “just for fun,” then there’s nothing wrong with it. Do you understand what I am getting at?

5. Forced Sex

Forced sex should definitely be on the list of worst types of sex to have. I shouldn’t have to go any further than this. It’s wrong, it’s damagin

 

6. BDSM

For some, BDSM can be fun. However, a lot of people do not like this type of sex. I never understood why someone would want to be abusive during this time. I mean, come on, isn’t this a time when you are supposed to be giving your partner love?

g, it’s also illegal. HELLO!

7. Drunken Sex

Drunken sex in any way, shape or form is going to be one of the worst types of sex. At least, in my opinion it would be. I think that it is even worse when you wake up the next morning and don’t remember having sex, but the details and reminders are all around you.
There you have it – the 7 worst types of sex according to my book.  I am sure there are a few more to list,  so, in your opinion, what is the worst type of sex a girl should be aware and clearly stay away from? (allwomenstalk)

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7 Big Differences between Sex And Love

 

 By Kiley Coleman

There are many differences between sex and love. Women enjoy seeing passionate love making in the movies, but sometimes are disappointed by their own experience that doesn’t even come close. There is something so sensual and beautiful when two people have chemistry together. But that isn’t always the case when it comes to sex. Sometimes people have sex just to have sex.  Below,  I’m going to share with you 8 big differences between sex and love!

1. Knowing Each Other

The first time you are with someone can sometimes be a bit awkward. It takes time to get to know someone’s body and pleasure points. When you are in love with someone the time you put into getting to know each other’s bodies is intimate. You take pleasure in making sure you know what makes them tick. When you have sex with someone and you’re just doing it to do it, that is a clear difference between sex and love. Sex is a physical act and when looking at it without any spark or chemistry thats when the love is missing.

2. Friends with Benefits

A lot of people say you can’t be friends with benefits without someone developing feelings, which does tend to be true. But what is going on before those feelings are involved is simply a platonic need to fill ones craving for sex. If you both find each other attractive, and can turn each other on, then why not enjoy the benefits? When the feelings do become involved it becomes more then just a physical act. But again, they are feelings and emotions which is what love is. So just remember if you want to enjoy the friends part, stick to keeping a clear vision that it is not a relationship!  Remember, having fears of being intimate is something that everyone deals with.

3. Foreplay

One of the best things I have heard is foreplay doesn’t start in the bedroom, it starts in the flirting. When you first meet someone and have that chemistry, the sexual tension in itself is foreplay. Sex is just an action, but falling in love includes the foreplay. Foreplay means you don’t want to rush sex, you want to take your time and enjoy every bit of it. When there is no foreplay there’s no desire in wanting to please each other, and that is a major difference between sex and love.

4. Orgasm

A lot of people misconstrue an orgasm as love. That toe curling, body shaking, want to scream from the top of your lungs feeling doesn’t mean you just experienced love. It is just another part of sex, but getting to that moment does include intense passion and love between a partner. it’s hard to find yourself having the big “O” without being able to connect with the person.

5. Sex Is a Release

Sex isn’t just about romance. Sometimes people use sex as a release the same way you want an after work drink. This is a big difference between sex and love. Love includes emotions, while sex is just the action. Having sex with someone is a release for yourself and can be a purely selfish motive. When you are doing it for that reason, it’s not about love.

6. Selflessness

Love makes you want to please every part of your partner physically and emotionally. There is something about it that feeds you inside. Think of every romance movie you have seen where the guy courts, woos, and pleasures the woman he is fond over. It is never a rushed experience, but a sensual, caressing, and selfless moment. This is a big difference between sex and love. In comparison, sex can be fast with a goal of get off, and get done. When you’re motive is selfish it’s not about the love.

7. Chemistry

Think of the movie, ‘How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days’ where Matthew McConaghey and Kate Hudson have that epic moment in the shower where you literally see them fall in love with each other. It is not the most romantic love story but it is one I feel most women can relate too. There’s that moment in a relationship when you connect with your partner on a new level, “love making” as most people call it.

That chemistry is something two people can create only when you have love between you two. Of course you can have sexual attraction to each other and a spark. That’s what makes sex hot and steamy, but it is not the full definition of lovemaking. There’s all different levels of chemistry with someone, its just seeing where you truly connect.

A lot of times girls get confused with the differences between sex and love, but I hope these are helpful in relating to your experiences. With these in mind, whether you are single or in a relationship, think about how you feel when you are with someone and if its truly love or truly a hot, steamy, passionate sex endeavor? Have you ever confused sex with love? (allwomenstalk)

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8 Things No One Told You about Sex

By Kati Blake 

 

 By Kati Blake

Ever wondered if there are things that no one told you about sex? Whether you learnt from sex education, hands-on experience or watching sexy programs on TV, there is no one comprehensive source for sex information, so how do you know if you’ve missed out on vital knowledge? A recent international study drew up a list of things that most participants didn’t know – how well do you score? Take a look at some of the things no one told you about sex.

1. Female Ejaculation Exists…

Some people claimed to have heard of this but branded it false, and over 50% of respondents had no idea that women can ejaculate – which has to make this one of the top things that no one told you about sex – and some even wrote that it was actually escaped urine. Luckily, it’s not! Doctors have monitored the sexual lives of a group of women who claimed to have this talent, and confirmed that the fluid is neither urine nor lubrication. It’s a clear fluid that is released from the urethra, and it varies in amount. It doesn’t happen for everyone, so don’t fret if you never experience it – but don’t worry if you do, either.

2. It Doesn’t Always Work…

In theory, any woman can have sex with any man. But in practice, it doesn’t work like that. Break it down a little and you’ll understand why: we don’t expect every key to fit every lock, and genitalia is the same. Luckily, there are positions that can make sex possible even if the parts are too big or small. Positions where you are in charge of the depth can be brilliant for both, and using sex toys is another great way to boost your sex life. There are solutions, if you are adventurous enough to find them!

3. Left Is Best…

Some sex therapists claim that the left side of the clitoris is the most pleasurable – and there are currently studies going on the confirm if the left side of the vagina has more nerves in general, making it the more pleasurable side. While it’s not confirmed, all the preliminary studies reported that women who focused on their left side had more fun – so give it a go, and see if it works for you.

4. All Men Have Sensitive Anal Areas…

But that doesn’t mean all men want them stimulated! It’s just a good area to explore. Many old guides to sex claimed that only gay men would enjoy anal stimulation, but in reality it’s packed with nerves for any man, and prostate stimulation can cause intense orgasms. See if he’s game after a few glasses of wine, and you could bring a whole new element to the bedroom.

5. Lube up…

Many women don’t produce enough natural lubrication. Many women find sex dry and painful. What was obvious from the study results is that there is a big correlation between the two groups, but many haven’t invested in lube to see that it could solve all their problems. Most drugstores carry lube, it’s cheap and it comes in a variety of formulations, including soothing versions and scented versions. Go with the mantra that wetter is better, and give it a go. It could transform your sex life.

6. Sex Can Be Part of Your Beauty Routine…

During sex, women’s estrogen levels soar – making hair shiny and luscious, and skin glow. It’s as close to the fountain of youth as we’ve got – so use it well! Regular sex can keep you looking great, so make time for it and count it as a beauty treatment. It’s probably a lot cheaper!

7. Sex Lowers Stress Levels…

Sex is ideal for times when you are feeling stressed. It lowers blood pressure levels, and boosts levels of immunoglobulin A, which protects from illnesses and infections such as colds. It can be easy to reject your partner’s advances if your stress levels are high, but if you can make time, you’ll make yourself a lot healthier. And have fun in the meantime. Win!

8. Sex Isn’t Slow…

We’ve all seen those romantic films where sex lasts all night, heard explicit lyrics about emerging for air and probably even had nights where you couldn’t get enough of someone…but on average, sex doesn’t take time. Most sex sessions last under ten minutes, and it can take a lot of self-control to make it last any longer. If he does want to elongate his performance, techniques such as breathing control tend to have good results.

Other lesser-known facts included that the pill can lower your sex drive, sex can work as a painkiller and that falling asleep after sex is completely normal – so generally, we could do with polishing up on every aspect of our sex ed! Do womankind a favor by passing these things no one told you about sex on to someone else – and don’t forget to share your own sex facts with us too! (allwomenstalk)

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Dating has a Function

        By Susan Browing Pogany

        Dating is time spent together on a casual, friendly level - without sex. Dating has an important function. It helps you learn about yourself, your needs, what kind of person you get along best with, what you want from a relationship, and what you have to offer a partner. You need this discovery process to build a foundation for adult relationships. When teens move on to sex and sidestep the process of dating, they are risking their chance to really get to know their partner. Just because they're having sex doesn't mean they can communicate maturely. And it doesn't mean they've learned to handle sex in a mature way. Dating a number of partners over many years helps give you that maturity.

        Sex is the most intimate from of contact. why share something so intimate when the two of you haven't yet explored each other deepest thoughts and feelings over a long period? Sex is not the way to get to know someone better.

       How sad to be in a sexual relationship and realize, "We don't really have much to say to each other."

       Samantha, seventeen, explains, "I thought I was so ready to find someone to love that I could have this passionate, sexual relationship with. I just had a feeling that it would make me mature, and I thought it would really mean something to feel so loved by another person. But it didn't turn out that way. I ended up sleeping with this guy, Ben, whom I'd had a crush on since freshman year. It happened at a party at my friend Ellie's house when her folks were away. I was sure it was the start of something between us, which is what I wanted, but at school the next week he didn't even want to talk to me. I felt like the worst sleaze. And I was so scared I was pregnant."   (Sex Smart)

       

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Teen with All Wrong about Sex

 

          By Susan Browing Pogany

          Many teens find the sexual experience unhappy because they realize they began having sex for all the wrong reasons. Here are some of them:

• Curious - they want to experience or to get experience
• They want to be cool or popular, or to impress their friends
• As an escape from loneliness
• As an escape from boredom
• As an expression of rebellion or anger toward their parents
• Because they think everyone is doing it
• To keep a girlfriend or boyfriend who is pressuring them
• Boy want to be macho, prove they're men
• Some girls, too, want to show they're tough
• As a means of communication
• Trying to score with as many partners as possible
• They want affection and intimacy
• They're afraid their partner's feelings will be hurt if they say no
• They think their partner will love them more
• They want to prove they're mature
• They want to get it over with

             Young people who have sex for these reasons can have an empty, sad experience and may feel ashamed later. (Sex Smart)

                                     

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Can Teen Sex Affect Your Later Marriage

 

          By Susan Browing Pogany

          Partners who have had premarital sex are more than twice as likely to commit adultery (have sex with someone outside of their marriage) after they are married. As a result, their marriages are undermined by suspicions, lack of harmony, and by one partner's discovery of the other's lack of faithfulness.

         One effect of premarital sex is that later on, sex within marriage may seen less exciting. Partners may have relished the premarital thrill of getting away with something forbidden so much that they come to miss this excitement. Married sex may seem dull by comparison. This letdown may push partners to try to relive this thrill through adultery, Short explains. This puts their marriage at great risk.

        Couples who had sex before marriage are less likely to be satisfied with their married sex lives. One partner may compare the other's sexual abilities or responses with those of previous partners. Even though their marriage partner has normal responses and normal sexual skills, they may think longingly of the wildly erotic behavior of some previous lover and feel cheated and unhappy.

       Dating couples who can't hold off on sex may be blinded by it, writes Short. The intensity of the sex can fool them into thinking they're meant for each other. Only after they are married do they discover that the main thing holding them together was sex.

        Premarital sex can cause one or the other marriage partner to be sexually "inhibited" - unable to share and enjoy sex, one partner felt guilty about doing something wrong. Every time that partner premarital sex, it was associated with guilt and shame. Even after marriage, the partner continues to think of sex as something bad. Such as marriage partner just can't "let go" and enjoy sex as freely as they could have if sex had been postponed until marriage. It may take years to get over this bad feeling. Sex counselors say this is an extremely common problem and leads to less happy marriages.

       Sociologist Short believes that another reason premarital sex breaks up marriages is that it robs couples of the "sexual cement" that can hold them together. He explains that the first years of a marriage are the roughest period of adjustment for a young couple. This is when a marriage is most likely to break up. He says that the first year or two that a couple begin having sex is the most thrilling sexually. If this period of exciting sex occurs during the same year or so that they are going through the difficult early period of adjusting to marriage and each other, then good sex can cement their love and marriage. However, if they had a year or so of premarital sex, then "that precious bonding of sex that could have helped hold them together while they worked out their problems has been largely lost.

        Couples may be pushed into a bad marriage by guilt over sex. If two people think they are in love, and if they become engaged, they may decide that sex is finally okay, but only because they are doing it with the one they will marry. However, if either partner late feels there are good reasons for breaking off the engagement, they may feel obligated to go ahead and marry because they have shared the gift of their virginity.
 (One out of every three engaged couples breaks off the engagement before marrying, Short explains.)

        "My mon and dad waited until they married, and seeing how much they love each other now after all those years makes me want that for my marriage," says one eighteen-year-old.

        A young woman named Kristen says "that if both partners are virgins on their wedding night, "there will be an incredible feeling of trust and closeness like no other."

        She adds, "I am so sick of hearing all that crap about ' you need to know [ your partner ] in every aspect before you get married. ' well, if you want to know how your mate will be in bed, you can measure them by level of passion in their kiss and in the way they treat you."

       When it comes to sexual compatibility, almost any couple who love each other can achieve a happy sex life, writes Short. He states that the best sex is married sex.

       Having premarital sex to test your compatibility can spoil things. You're not shopping for a sex object. You're looking for a life time partner and best friend. (Sex Smart)

                                     

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